I met Amy and Trevor through Jerome. He had been Amy's Dom before she married Trevor, who is an officer in the military. Amy thought that since Trevor was in the service and an officer that that meant he was Dom...he was not.
So Jerome introduced them to me, because of the fact that I love having two subs, but because I love helping marriages and relationships strengthen in order to cut down on divorce and break-ups (as is evidenced by this thread). So, when I first talked to Amy and Trevor the first thing I asked them was what was their safe word.
Trevor: You're allergic to Pineapple.
Amy: That's why it's my safe word.
Trevor: Okay then, Nuts, since I'm allergic to nuts.
I tried not to laugh, I really did. I actually had to lower my head, because when he said he was allergic to nuts, my mind sprinted into the gutter and I almost said "God I LOVE the taste of nuts in my mouth." Hehehe.
Anyway, Amy, Trevor and I found out what was completely off limits for them.
Trevor: I don't want anyone pissing on me or taking a dump on me.
Me: Eeww, gross.
Amy: Yeah, that for me too.
So we decided that we'd give it a try. We all pulled out our day planners to figure out when we'd get together to have a "scene." Amy and Trevor had three kids, so we were going to have to get together when the kids were in school and Trevor could come home from the base on lunch or when he had one of those rare days off.
Our very first scene I only brought my paddle and restraints and three plugs (remember I had a female, they have two holes). We didn't get into much, but I did get a chance to see exactly what they liked and what they didn't. Trevor loved to be spanked, Amy loved being tied up.
My favorite scene was the one in which I got to use a switch, a cane, a paddle, my flogger, and best of all Little Big Vic (*tear*) on the both of them and then watch as they made love with each other. I would sometimes have them tied up side by side, that day I tied them to each other. The next morning I asked them what they thought about the scene before. The different scenes I'd used, the fact that they were tied together. I asked them if they thought I'd gone too far with using the different toys all over their body. How they felt about the nipple clamps and me spanking their nipples while they were clamped at the same time.
I asked how they felt about all of the marks on their body, especially the ones that I'd put on their asses and the spanking that I'd given their genitals. They loved it. They loved the moment when I sat on the other side of the room and then talked Trevor into spanking Amy and then when I held onto Amy's head as she gave Trevor a blowjob. Trevor even loved it when I was in him while he was in Amy.
That next morning is when they both told me that they'd never felt as close with each other as they had that night before. It was amazing, for all three of us. I was so sad to see them move to Washington a few months after that.
The Dom/sub relationship is one that is about more than just discipline and rules and guidelines and safe words, it's about feeling and emotion and all of the people involved becoming better versions of themselves. Each person involved helps the other, give and take is involved for everyone and best of all, if done right, everyone gets off in some way.
Hugz, Squeezes, and Spankings!