Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Gloria Brame

So today (since The Dom is writing and the subs are working, resting, sleeping) I, your loving Dom, am going to highlight someone that I admire.

Gloria Brame ( her website says this about her:

Dr. Gloria G. Brame is one of the world's foremost clinical sexologists.  An author, therapist, and seasoned media sexpert, you'll find her quoted in magazines such as Cosmopolitan, GQ, Men's Health, Maxim, Playboy, and Redbook.

Dr. Brame also has a few books that I find very interesting:

"Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission" Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submissionwhich has this as the blurb: 

      Still in print after 17 years, Playboy called Different Loving "a detailed, eye-opening account of the real sexual            

     underground in America...a thorough and serious study" and readers have called it the Bible of SM.

A breakthrough in sexual literature, this work is a complete, comprehensive user-friendly guide to and tour through the world of alternative sexual lifestyles. While the topics are exotic and erotic, the authors handle each one in a sensitive, thorough, analytical, and fascinating way and manage to explain a secret world to those who might wish to visit.

    From Kirkus Reviews

Few books come with warning labels, but this one does: ``Readers should not attempt any of the activities described in these pages.'' Why not? Because the outr‚ sexual practices described by the Brames (she: a former therapist; he: a former archaeologist) and Jacobs (a freelance writer) in this bold report carry psychological and, often, physical risks--though that hasn't stopped the two-hundred-odd practitioners whom the authors interviewed, nor the millions who share their passion for sexual dominance and submission (D&S). All D&S, the authors explain, involves a ``power exchange'' in which one partner ``tops,'' or dominates, and the other ``bottoms,'' or submits--whether through bondage, wrestling, whipping, body-piercing, etc. After running through the history of D&S scholarship--with expected nods at Krafft-Ebbing and Havelock Ellis--the Brames and Jacob present an overview of the practices themselves, which range from infantilism (the bottom often wears a diaper and sucks on a bottle) and depersonalization (the bottom may act like an object, perhaps a footstool, or an animal, most often a pony) to spanking, cross-dressing, foot fetishes, enemas, branding, and so on. The authors discuss the methods, psychological bases, and historical backgrounds of the practices, each of which is illuminated by interviews with practitioners who speak with great seriousness (``Deliberate, ritualized infliction of what we call pain can change the relationship of the body and that which lives in the body,'' says Fakir Musafar, who likes to dangle from trees by way of ``fleshhooks''). And as for the risks, nearly all of these sexual outlaws identify with the ``Scene'' (the vast D&S underground that's highly self-aware: Two thousand infantilists, for example, belong to a ``Diaper Pail Fraternity'') and with its credo of ``Safe, Sane, and Consensual.'' The definitive guide to the sexual styles of those who walk on the wild side. -- Copyright ©1993, Kirkus Associates, LP. All rights reserved. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

There is also her book "Come Hither"
Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide To Kinky SexA fun, commonsense guide to kinky sex, Come Hither, is the official guide to kink at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality.
Amazon Blurb: How do you tell your partner that you'd like to be spanked?
Where can you find a good dominatrix?
If your husband like to wear your panties, does that mean he's gay?
What really goes on at SM clubs?
After you tie someone up, what exactly are you supposed to do?
Is there such a thing as normal sex?
If you've ever wondered about the ins and outs of bondage, spanking, or cross-dressing, look no further. Come Hither is a frank, friendly guide on how to turn your secret fantasies into satisfying expressions of love and desire. The official resource guide for SM/fetish sex at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, Come Hither proves that a little kink can be a lot of fun.

And Editorial Reviews:


Bob Berkowitz author of His Secret Life Come Hither is accessible, fun to read, informative, and sexy all at the same time. I highly recommend it.

Dr. Robert T. McIlvenna President, The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality Dr. Brame is simply the best tour guide I know for your travel in the world of kinky sex.

And Finally "The Truth about Sex: A Sex Primer for the 21st Century":
The Truth About Sex, A Sex Primer for the 21st Century Volume I: Sex and the SelfRenowned bestselling author Dr. Gloria G. Brame's newest book, The Truth About Sex, Volume 1 - Sex and the Self, has just been published and is available via and Barnes & Noble. The Truth About Sex is the first of a planned three-volume set of books that gives adults the basic tools to have a happy and satisfying sex life. It is also available as an e-book.
Amazon blurb:
Have you ever wondered why we think one type of sex is better than another? Are inhibitions or confusion about sex holding you back? Do you think you're a sex addict? Have you given up on having good orgasms with your partner? Are you worried sex will break up your relationship? The Truth About Sex will set you free.
The Truth About Sex is an important new work by internationally renowned sex therapist, bestselling author (Different Loving, Come Hither), and sex blogger/historian (Gloria's Oversexed Mind, The Bilerico Project), Gloria G. Brame, Ph.D. Twenty years of Dr. Brame's research on human sexuality is distilled into three fast-paced volumes that will change the way you look at sex. They offer reality-based models which combine Brame's original theories, hard facts, and over 10 years of highly successful, results-oriented sex therapy. Brame addresses the most intimate, complicated questions about sex in page-turning, warmly empathic prose. Using cutting-edge sex and medical studies, historical research, and composite case studies from her private practice, she teaches adults how to make sexual ecstasy a reality.
Volume 1, SEX AND THE SELF, is a complete primer on masturbation, orgasm and new models for talking about, thinking about and understanding your inner sexual identity. It includes Dr. Brame's best clinical techniques for improving sexual performance and increasing every adult's potential for complete sexual satisfaction.
About the Author:
Gloria G. Brame is a sex therapist and best-selling author (Different Loving, Come Hither). She holds an M.A. in English from Columbia University (GSAS 1978) and a Ph.D. from the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (2000). Her frequently censored yet astonishingly popular blog, Gloria's Oversexed Mind, covers all aspects of sexual history, and was selected for "Best of SexBlogs 2010" and "NY Sex Bloggers Calendar 2011." Professor of Human Sexuality, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality (San Francisco); Fellow, Erotic Heritage Museum (Las Vegas); named "Hero of the Sexual Revolution" (Exodus Trust, 2006); regular contributor to The Bilerico Project, the Sexual Health Network, and iFriends Adult Forums. Frequently cited in Cosmo, Men's Health, Esquire, GQ and other print and digital media. Google Gloria Brame or follow DrGloriaBrame on Twitter.

And the Reviews:


Healthy sexuality is fundamental to building healthy lives, relationships, communities and societies, and we all could use some guidance. This honest and reassuring book is an excellent resource for those seeking greater confidence in, and understanding of, this basic right. Thank you, Dr. Brame! --Nina Hartley, R.N., Author of Nina Hartley's Guide to Total Sex

If you don't have a sex therapist on speed dial, Dr. Gloria Brame will be your emergency contact. Calling shenanigans on the way our culture deals with sexuality, The Truth About Sex plants a sex-positive flag into the American landscape. --Megan Andelloux, Certified Sexuality Educator, Board Certified Sexologist

The Truth About Sex by Dr. Gloria Brame is the talk every parent should have with their children, their partner(s) and, most importantly, themselves. The first step in affirming sexual freedom as a fundamental human right is one's own sexual liberation. Dr. Brame's book outlines a clear path toward that goal! --Ricci Joy Levy, Executive Director, The Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

Gloria Brame takes readers from masturbation to orgasm in an easy and forthright manner. This informative volume doesn't leave readers wanting more; it shows them just how to get satisfaction on their own. --Bil Browning, Editor-in-Chief, The Bilerico Project

Insightful, smart, and subversive in sexy ways, Dr. Gloria Brame brings a refreshingly original perspective to the study of human sexuality in all its dimensions and permutations. --Dr. Sandor Gardos, Sex Therapist and Founder of

So I encourage you to go out and read Dr. Brame's books and check out her website and her blog:

Happy Spankingz!
-The Dom

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